01 Feb Caution: Wait! Handle with Care – Feb 14

By Deborah Sherlly Yusuf

I usually am not a big fan or surprises. I’m the kind of person that wants to know what hubby will be getting for my birthday weeks prior. When I found out I was pregnant, I assumed I was carrying a boy. One reason that seemed to be physically valid was my sudden disinterest in dressing up. I could not bring myself to put make-up in the morning, and the clothes that I wore were literally the first thing I saw in the wardrobe. People say when this happens it’s most likely due to pregnant-with-a-boy hormone. So Dennis and I started to pick names for a boy, and even asked our sister for our nephew’s old baby clothes.

And how pleasantly wrong I was!

For as long as I can remember, I’ve had always wanted a girl for a first-born. To dress her up, to play with her hair, to go shopping with her, to do high-tea, to do manicure and pedicure, to talk about boys, and one day to pick her wedding gown. The feeling I had when I found out I was carrying a girl is indescribable. I don’t think even an expert writer could pen down the outburst of joy and happiness that suddenly rushed like a mighty flood in my heart. Oh how I was SURPRISED!

There’s only one surprise that out-levelled the above. Our wedding night.

Young men and women, our sensual desires; our longings to love and be loved; our need for acceptance; they are not wrong. We are sexual beings and our desire for sex is pure. And like every other good surprises, sex is meant to be a wonderful, joyful and an indescribable experience. The only one key to fully enjoy this surprise is to wait until you’re married. To have sex before marriage is like robbing yourself – of your own joy, your own happiness, your own enjoyment, and your own marriage.

Despite of our current trend to try before you buy, sex is the ULTIMATE EXCEPTION. To wait until marriage before you have sex, to keep the desires but not to act, to know that it’s too pleasant to enjoy now – trust me, it’s all going to be so worth it!

“What do women want today? What do men want? I mean, deep down. What do they really want? If ‘times’ have changed, have human longings changed, too? How about principles? Have Christian principles changed? I say no to the last three questions, an emphatic no. I am convinced that the human heart hungers for constancy. In forfeiting the sanctity of sex by casual, nondiscriminatory ‘making out’ and ‘sleeping around,’ we forfeit something we cannot well do without. There is dullness, monotony, sheer boredom in all of life when virginity and purity are no longer protected and prized. By trying to grab fulfillment everywhere, we find it nowhere.” Elisabeth Elliot.

3 main statements:

• By trying to grab fulfillment everywhere, we find it nowhere
• Despite of our current trend to try before you buy, sex is the ULTIMATE EXCEPTION
• To have sex before marriage is like robbing yourself – of your own joy, your own happiness, your own enjoyment, and your own marriage.